Thursday, July 30, 2009

Letters from the Inside, Ann Miller Kontz, #4




Well, Hi there sweet friend!

Welcome home from Alaska! I'm sorry to hear that you broght a flu bug with you--not the kind of souvenir you had planned for I'm sure! Are you feeling better now?

My friend & I were just sitting here talking about our 6 word story. Here's what we came up with:

MINE: broken vessel, molded, blessed, wife, mother
HERS: Worthless to pricless via love, redemption

I still like yours the best. I can't wait to see what Paul comes up with. He's so good with words. It will be something fun to do at our next visit!

I'm sitting in the dayroom right now watching television. I know your letter had some questions, but since I left it in my room, I'll go from memory.

I don't ever really get bored in here. I might for a moement but I'm good (creative) at coming up with something to do. If I have to--I'll make up a project to do, or I'll clean my room, reorganize my locker, read a book (I read a lot) -- have you ever read Ted Dekker's stuff. He's my favorite author. Do you have any books to recommend? Anyway-as I was saying, it's the people who quickly get bored that struggle in here. They get themselves into trouble.

It's really not dangerous in here like you'd think of at a male facility. Women tend to be more caddy, gossipy, back-stabbing...you know, the emotional mind games. I've learned (the hard way) to keep to myself. There are occassional fights but it's usually between "girlfriends."

The food is terrible--especially with money like it is. They have cut back on the portions, but that's fine by me--I need to lose some weight & exercise is hard to come by. I was much more active at home & have gained weight. It's easy to do wearing baggy clothes all the time. You can put on the pounds without ever realizing it. you might be wondering how that happens if the food is so bad? We have a store (canteen) --Our families/friends send $ and we are given $40 a week to buy shampoo, soap, laundry detergent, stamps, paper, pens, food, coffee...everything---surprise, surprise--nothing is free. Anyway-the food--chips, cookies, Little Debbies cakes, sandwiches, sodas--we eat. We've come up with some great recipes. Here--I'll share one with you.

Take tortilla shells, cover one lightly with mayo & microwave 45 sec. Section it like a pizza. Lay the chips around the plate, in the center, layer
-cheesy rice mixed with a ramen noodle
-shredded chicken breast
-Hormel chili packet (without the beans)
-top with French Onion dip

It's prison nachos and they are really wonderful. We've learned to be creative.

I came up with one recipe for a cake--layering various chocolate and vanilla Little Debby cakes. I made a mousse filling & icing. It was good. I sent the recipe home to my daughter. She loved it--a great (& sweet) no bake cake--perfect for kids!!!

Speaking of my daughter-she just got back from vacation & I talked to her today. She had a really good time. Since I have not talked to her since she left---it was so awesome to hear her sweet voice-so angelic and so excited about all she'd done. It did both of our hearts good to listen to her tell me all about her trip. Gosh, I love that beautiful little princess. She's my lifeline.

Your Alaska trip sounded so wonderful & I love your stories. I really enjoy your writing style & look forward to any other stories you have to share!

Take care sweet friend--I send my love.

Ann

P.S. Working on a picture for you--we don't get them taken often.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Letters from the Inside, Thomas Bartlett Whitaker, #9

Dear Kelly,

So, here's my plan: now that we are aware that you possess this supernatural ability to make Sarah Palin do retarded things, I think we need to bilk the DNC out of copious amounts of money. Think aboutit: we can send you to all of the inevitable "Palin in 2012" events which are bound to be inflicted on all of us, and have you stand in close proximity, causing her to commit political suicide time after time. How does that sound. As your manager, I shall only require ten percent.

Sadly it does not surprise me that you bumped into some pro-abstinence, pro-DP, pro-Jeeeeessusah! Texan on your trip. You coudln't toss a grenade down here without blasting at least a handful of such twits into the next world. I see by his photograph that he has the typical "I've-worked-my-whole-life-for-a defense-contractor-until-this-morning-they-fired-me-and-now-I've-got-a-duffel-bag-full-of-guns-and-a-Bible-look" that is pretty much endemic down ehre. Nice glasses, if we were to suddenly find ourselves back in 1082. Haha, "Texas Softball Hall of Fame?" Sign. Softball is for old farts who can't play baseball. Anyway, I feel the constant need to apologize for such people.

How are you feeling--oink---now? The flu-oink-still got you-oink oink-down? Ha, sorry, not really a funny subject. I hope you are feeling better. Since misery loves company, I will inform you that we are on lockdown currently. Sack lunches three times a day, few-if any-showers, no rec, commissary suspended, etc. I'm freaking starving right now, which isn't the same as being violently ill, save that both of our stomachs are empty. They already this this pod for shakedown, so we are now just waiting on them to finish the rest of the unit. I didn't lose too much this time around, save the usual victims of old correspondence and save containers I use to prepare food. Most of a certain type of guard likes me, so I lucked out this time. I'm not always so lucky. Hm..., on portion of your letter troubles me, Kelly. you wrote that you have "posted some of your long letters" on your site. I hope you do not mean the entire letter. as that is not really what I had in mind when I gave you permission for this. I have no real issues with you quoting me if such data is germane to whatever post you are trying to make. That's cool with me...But the idea of an entire piece of correspondence... I mean, I write to you because I like you. I neither know or wish to correspond with your member list, so you can see how my letters would take a totally different tack if the audence were to be more public. I guess I sort of assumed you would tell me when you planned to write about me, so I could at least put on some pants and tuck in my shirt, metaphorically. Maybe I misundertood your comment, and if so, please correct me. Anyways, I'm back to handwriting letters. Thought it woudl be good to get back to basicals, i.e. I ran out of ribbons. Has been a while since I've done this. I would venture a guess that this tradeshow you went ot in Houston was at the George R. Brown Center? Horrid, ghastly example of how not to design a building. Downtown has evolved quite a bit the last few years, with more clubs and restaurants than before, and way more loft buildings. It's still a suburb-centric sort of town, though. They are finally laying down track for a mass transit system, though this is always going to be a car town. you could call a cab, if coming to see me, but its more than a hours drive from the airport, and is going to cost you a fortune. As long as I have plenty of time to plan, I will find you transportation. You could drive from Livingston to Galveston (2.5 hours) and still technically be in Houston, so cabs are never a good idea here, except for inside the loop. Will work something out.

Those really are some amazing photos you sent. You don't get to see colors like that here. Or spaces so vast. I can't remember the last time I witnessed any scene which could be divided into foreground and background. Juneau looks sort of boring for a capital city, and Skagway sounds downright revolting. At least you didn't get mauled by anything mroe dangerous than that cretin from Tejas.

Well I guess it is a good think you have come to terms with being a malcontent. I'm aloof. How I'm wired. I want to be different, to be good with people, but ... people suck. Please understand I'm not being conceited when I say that most people are idiots. Just a fact of life.. I worte about the stupidity of the blogosphere recently, about what a horrid waste of memory most blogs seem to be. I'f you have somethign important to add to the human conversation, great. If your writing ability brings people pleasure or pain -- even better. But I don't fucking care to hear about someone's creepy obsession wtih Jessica Alba. Ok. I fucking get it. She's hot. I don't require 200,000 words to explain the matter. In the end, we are going to be a species with so much pointless data at our beck and call that we forget how to breath and perish while buried under an avalance of Britney Spears tweets. Anyways, when you read what I wrote, remember that I wasn't talking about you. Unless you are the President of the Jonas Brothers 4 Ever! NYC Chapter, in which case you can just not write me back :-)

Well, I'm off. Take care of yourself and get over the flu. If I mentioend the following in my last letter, forgive me. I sometimes repeart myself, repeat myself. If it is economically possible for you, could you tape a few stamps to the upper left hand page of the last page of your letter? I'm going through something of a rough patch right now and it would be a big help. They would have to be the regular 1st class American flag stamps, though. If not, it's cool. Anyways, I hope this finds you well.

Until, next time.

Thomas
My official 6 word memoir: I'm still waiting on the punchline.

[Ed.: I wrote back telling him that I misunderstood him when he said I have permission to use his letters online. I told him I have indeed posted his full letters and would ask him to seriously reconsider as I want to post them and not quotes. I explained further that I am not writing about him, but rather want his words to speak for himself. That I do not quote him in order to prove a point in a bigger editorial piece. I am not editorializing at all.]

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Letters from the Inside, Michael Swango, #35





Dear KK---

Hi, sunshine! I hope you have returned from your Alaskan Cruise somewhat recharged, and with any building clouds of depression dispelled--at least for now.

I just received yesterday your two letters written before you left on your cruise...as is often the case, quite a bit of incoming mail seemed to be delayed by the July 4th holiday-an odd one this year falling on a Friday. So by the time this reaches you, I'm guessing you will have returned. That's with my totally guesswork estimate that most such cruises last 10-14 days so if you left Sun 28 JUN...return anywhere from 8-12 JUL?

Free free to share your stories of rock-climbing, stunning sights, gluttony, and sexual debauchery while on your cruise...just kidding, KK. :)

So-your letters (as always, KK, intriguing and demanding comment!) plus several articles & items to send your way... But I am most curious as to your "take"& comments on some of the very strange and hi-profile stories these past couple of weeks: The death of Michael Jackson/the governor of SC & his Argentinean "soulmate"/Murder-suicide of Steve McNair & his 20 y/o mistress.

Your 1st letter--quite dramatic gold stationary!: I completely agree with you on the therapeutic and cathartic power of writing--both to ones self in the form of diaries & journals and to others.

Will be most curious when you are able to discuss details of the "HIV" story. Sounds complicated & very New Yorkish. Trust me, Kelly, my life has nothing on yours in terms of mystery, and intrigue! And please let me know about And the Band Played On. I was serious.

I will write out more medical stories as they come up-or any in particular that might shed light on certain subjects. Or things you might ask about--not that you ever ask any questions, "Ms. Cheshire"... the smile is very sexy & provocative, but here I refer to the curiosity.

[Ed.: I have made it clear over and over to him that I am not at all interested in any type of flirtation and do not want to discuss anything of a sexual nature with him and still he persists.]

Before you left on your cruise, you mentioned several potential new clients plus job interviews. Please keep me posted. I so hope you can keep your "freelance lifestyle" --it seems to suit you so well.

Warning: possibly uncomfortable (for you) details to follow: I found your revelation of having two breast reductions most fascinating. Here's secret that is not generally recognized by many women--who buy into the "Playboy" mentality: Men will invariably comment on large breasts because it is absolutely expected. But when it comes to intimate sexual contact, normal (whatever that means..) breasts are just fine with most men. It is the shape and especially her nipples that are the true turn-on.

And a short or long-lasting intense all-giving sexual relationship. (Again-I have yet to define & discuss because it will involve potentially uncomfortable details for you..) [Ed.: He refers here to my frequent requests to keep the commentary in letters strictly to G-rated subjects. I have told him clearly I am only interested in a platonic pen-pal relationship and am eager to hear of his interests in books/films and what the prison experience is like.]

By the way, gay men find the heterosexual male obsession with large breasts to be laughable & utterly unrelated to what sex is supposed to be about.

Somewhat related topic: I read an article reprinted from the Times [would send it to you if I could--but I'm sure you can find it online] about friendships between gay & straight men. Interesting. But I always held gay men as friends-never any problems or "sexual tension". Why should there be? If straight women can have gay male friends without trying to come on to them, why should we think a gay man can't do the same? However, that old canard about being comfortable with one's sexuality does apply.

Returning to your letter, I only took a plastic surgery elective as a resident, but second reductions have to be fairly rare. Are they? Knowing you, like me, somewhat obsessive and regimented, you researched the topic thoroughly! And once gain, in that very sexy wedding photo, your entire body seems to "fit" marvelously. :) Ok-I'll stop now. God forbid I offend you or make you blush.*

*You know of course that wedding photos of the bride in her gown are inherently "hot" because of the male mind racing ahead to the wedding night...

So like you, KK: "Trying to make everything neat and perfect before leaving...to Alaska."

Describes you to a tee, does it not?! However I stand behind my earlier comment that beneath that ordered, precise, regimented exterior is an interior filled with raw, unbound passion without limits given the right circumstances...or person.

Finally: Yes, I have been following the extremely cold and wet spring & early summer in the Northeast and New England. [My lesbian activist swears it all ties in to global warming.] Like you said, hopefully summer will return to normal upon your return...

Have enclosed several local reviews, etc.

>"PUBLIC ENEMIES"
>"HURT LOCKER"
>"FOOD, INC."
>Ran across this brief article on Diane von Furstenberg, whom you mentioned a few weeks ago.

>And "MAD MEN" to premiere

I am solucky--still another letter of yours to answer! But must get this in the mail. Thinking of you KK--and welcome back. Write soon please. More form me over the weekend.

Yours XOXO [Ed.: I have asked him to stop the XOs as I feel they are inappropriate.]

P.S. Postcards from Seattle & Anchorage & the ship and all points north?!

Saturday, July 18, 2009

Letters from the Inside, Sarah Pender, #11

Dear Kelly,

I liked the textured, bright stationary you wrote me on. Itty-bitty stars. Neat.

Your should be back from Alaska, with fun tales of the trip. Lord knows that with your wacky P.O.V. there will be plenty to tell.

Thanks for the Table for Two. For two years, I cut them out of the New Yorker and then alphabetized them and posted them into a guide. I seriously considered goign to NYC when I escaped because it's so easy to go there and be anonymous. I was determined that if I went, I would visit my favorite reviewed restaurants. What a fun pasttime--to visit and review restaurants. You used the word, "snarky" to describe the tone of the reporter. I have never in my life heard that word used, and its a good word. Snarky. Snotty. Potty. Party. Panting. Ranting.
Snarky- perhaps bittingly sarcastic?
Snide. Snobbish. Snotty. Snappy. Snippy.

Lots of good SN-words.

Thank you for your suggestions re submitting essays/excerpts. I finally had an AHA! moment yesterday. I have a friend who has set up a MySpace page that I originally intended to post a book excerpt and guage reaction, but now have a bigger idea. I have been developing ideas for community-involved programs within the prison, that benefit the prison, the women and the community. I am ready to do a proposal and need help with structure.

Also, as there is a National Task Force at work in Congress to retool the nations's Criminal Justice System, I am working with friends, family, and leaders in the community to present ideas for long-term solutions to creating restorative justice, instead of punishing and isolating people. Nearly everyone gets free one day. What good is warehousing them? I want every friend and family member of Indiana prisoners to get on board with me or present their own ideas while someone is paying attention.

Then, of course, there is my book.

So I am posting all of this stuff up, along with photos, and thought-hey! I have a lot to say. Why not create a weekly blog? I'm requesting info. from you about the basics of how to set it up and some tips. I'll have an outside person maintain it. How do I begin?

What a fun adventure!

I saw a recipe for halibut & paella w/roasted corn & peppers the other day. It looked so so so good. Was your paella cooking class a success? Meet anyone fun or exciting?

Hopefully you are laid out by the pool today finally getting some sun and relaxation. The weather here has been so nice--even when it rains at least it cooled off! There was a week of 90+ temps and it was ridiculously hot. But now I'm comfy and hope it lasts into August. (Could I get so lucky?)

The OUR LIVES section of the NY Times-does it have to be about life in NYC? or just modern life in general? I could have someone type it up and submit it via email, no problem. Have you written one yet? I thought you were considering it. And yeah, let me know what sort of submissions The Sun takes--when you get a chance.

What I'm really looking for are magazines that accept book review submissions, I think, or that will publish a book excerpt of an upcoming publication that's not directly from a publishing house. Like small authors' magazines or other literary magazines. Prison literature, as well.

Nice to know your nutty sense of humor may be partially genetic. I remember thinking how awful my life was as a teenager, so bad I attempted suicide and ran away a few times. Once I grew up, I see that I could have had it much worse. Much, much worse. I was loved as a kid. I was just really lonely. You know how parents or lovers show they care by DOing instead of BEing? I learned how to DO and not how to BE comfortable in my own skin. Lost. Lonely. God, I"m so glad I'm beyond that. I'm still a good DOer, but I'm an excellent BEer now.

Just being me.

I'm off to do big things!

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Sarah

Friday, July 17, 2009

Letters from the Inside, Michael Swango, #34

Dear KK---

Well, as someone who I know must be a "Saturday Night Live" fan, you will understand when I say that the "Al Franken Decade" has finally begun! Today the MN Supreme Court unanimously affirmed Franken's election to the U.S. Senate, and Coleman conceded. Talk about an improbable path to the Senate.

Have not received one of your scintillating letters for some time. Among the possible reasons:

>You have run out of questions!!! [Probability near zero.]
>You are super-busy with work & your whirling social calendar :)
[Probability 50%.]
>OR- You are currently on the well-deserved Alaskan summer cruise. [Probability 50%-you definitely need it!]

This will probably be a relatively brief letter. Certainly hope to hear from you soon--or when you return from Alaska.

So much of macabre & bizarre interest has happened this past week: The sudden but not unexpected death of Michael Jackson; the expected but tragic death of Farrah Fawcett; and the truly strange but riveting story of Governor Mark Sanford of SC. I actually believe that Maria in Argentina was or is a "true love". What that means when I say it, you and I have not yet discussed. Hopefully we will < see my previous letter>

Sadly, in still another bizarro interview Sanford buried himself even deeper in contradictions & "Harlequin romance-speak". That was today.

Obviously want your comments on the above.

***

Allow me to stand on my mini-soapbox reading HIV/AIDS for just a moment:

If you ask the average non-gay, non-infected American what they know about the AIDs pandemic in the U.S., two periods stand out. First was when HIV/AIDS was first known in the early 80s-the days of fear & prejudice, Rock Hudson, etc.

And then sometime in the late 90s they found the "cure", and that's that. That entire 10-15 year period from the early 80s to the mid-90s when the horror & wrath of an incurable, disfiguring, wasting, deadly, virtually always fatal disease laid waste to an entire generation of most but not all gay men is still, to this day, almost never discussed in mainstream media. It was carefully hidden away in the death wards of San Francisco General & LA County/USC Medical Center and multiple New York hospitals... and those thousands upon thousands who died-do so one at a time, in the night, often alone...

If you & I get teh chance--I would very much like to read the book by Randy Stilts: And the Band Played On with you. We could do so slowly-I know how much you have going on. But I would really like to tap your brain & your thoughts on this...

By the way, I am well aware, and have empathy for the fact that born in 1970-you "came of age" sexually at the height of the HIV/AIDS hysteria & fear in the mid-80s. I want to know what that was like, KK.

My reaction & adjustment was obviously different. And will discuss that as well, if you are curious [which is like saying if a woodpecker pecks!]

***

Much movie news & views although nothing that screams out for KK to see now. So will save that for my next letter. The big summer A-list movie seems to be "PUBLIC ENEMY" with Johnny Depp & Christian Bale, opening tomorrow. Are either of them dreamy? You are so cute!

Saw "Friends with Money" on TV. I am one of those who think Jennifer Anniston is a fine actress.

Just in case you have been cruising the coast of Alaska--two articles from the Times: One sent by my medical correspondent/the other by a lesbian activist!

>James Frey's new project
>The return of the contraceptive sponge made famous by "Seinfeld." Personal note: I had a girlfriend who absolutely swore by the sponge. Details upon request.

Sorry for the pencil--and my not writing for longer than usual. The reason are both financial, something you and I have not discussed. Will do so in a future letter.

Again, hope to hear from you soon. Thinking of you -- all in a good way, I assure you!!

Take care and stay safe.

Yours,

Michael

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Letters from the Inside, Michael Swango, #33

Dear KK---

Much to discuss from your fascinating, intriguing, and at time contradictory (!) letter, but first: I cannot resist :-)

Do your friends and lovers ever tell you that despite your being a highly sophisticated and independent New York City woman-at times you are still so clearly an adorable teenager?

"I CANNOT wait for Mad Men. I find Jon Hamm dreamy!"

DREAMY?! Really, Kelly?! I haven't heard that since the short-lived TV series about the 1960s & American Bandstand & Philadelphia starring a snow-white Brittany Snow... As in: "That Bobby Vinton is sooo dreamy!"

Personally, I find that side of you totally charming!
***

OK. With that out of my system-let me begin on the many scintillating topics & comments from your letter received just before the weekend.

My apologies for the pencil-hope you have no problems reading. Why the pencil plus related fiscal issue a bit later...

Hope that the official start of summer brings some hot sun to break the constant rain & wind & chill I know you've been having in your fair city. Hate hearing you say that "depression is really moving in". I have to believe that this economy has a lot of folks anxious, worried & fearful. All the more reason to let me try to elevate your mood & talk about things you seem so anxious to avoid...

Whatever of those "other things going on in your life" you can discuss, please do. Oh yes-and by the way, to relieve your paranoia of fears regarding "those things" and other subjects-people here have FAR MORE critical matters to worry about than "sexually explicit" in a letter, either coming in or going out. Believe me, I know. More on this in a bit, but that is simply not an issue, KK. I think your reasons are far more deeply rooted.

One more point from your first paragraph--DON'T let your exercise/fitness regimen fall by the wayside... You don't need me to tell you about endorphins & lifting spirits & depression, etc. etc.

Sure I know where Hoboken is-and Newark and Weehawken & Princeton. I actually interviewed at the Robert Wood Johnson Medical School at one point. And of course there is no greater cliché than New Jersey. I've also been though western NJ by the PA border and southern NJ (Philly/Wilmington) which are of course totally different worlds.

The fact that you are comfortable being by yourself comes through clearly in everything you write. Being alone does not mean being lonely.

Of course I would have loved to have met you in 1993 -- assuming an older man at the time would have been all right with a lovely 23 year old! I started that year in the bitter, brutal winter of S.D. - then was at Stonybrook beginning in late June. You know what else happened in '93. But like everything else-meeting someone who would so clearly have made an impact in one's life would have changed events & outcomes--how much? Who knows?

Now-before I run out of time on this particular letter: One definition of intelligence is the ability to hold two contradictory thoughts in our brains at the same time.

To lead into that, though-FIRST, WOW! You really make some astonishing leaps of thought! I mentioned having worked in healthcare & knowing quite a few gay men (and women, by the way) and you asked about gay experiences.

The answer is no. And of course we must add the classic "Seinfeld" line: "Not that there's anything wrong with it!"

However, if I had, you would be highly abnormally uncurious to not ask for details, details. But I would not be able to tell you, because of this rather strange aversion to discussing anything of a sexual nature. I have no idea what the underlying fear is-but to repeat what I said earlier: your stated concerns simply do not exist. Consider some of the others who reside here...think about that...

To further elaborate: By now, with all the letters & topics we have exchanged & discussed--you must know that any discussion that involved sexually or sensuality in any detail would be closely tied to some other topic and would help both of us get to know the other better. You say you want to understand reason & motivations...other than childhood, sexual experience & attitudes are extremely important in what makes us who we are as adults.

And by the way: You have asked me about correspondence. Every once in a while I will receive a letter from a female who will say & describe things that, trust me would astonish you and me! I have far better ways to spend my time.

Two things to make the point:

#1) When I was in my early 20s, I had the incredible good luck, emotionally and sexually, to meet are "older" woman who taught me & guided me, lovingly and unselfishly, though everything & more a heterosexual couple can experience. It changed my life-for the better. Completely I know it sounds like a cliché but it was anything but. She made all my future relationships much more open, emotionally fulfilling, & sensual.

#2) In talking to heterosexual women & gay men--I believe I discovered why gay men & straight women do have a real connection-far & above the stereotyped fashion & shoes & gay hags" as seen on "Sex and the City" & a hundred other shows and movies.

So-my final comment on the subject is this: You asked about gay experience & girlfriends in Africa & HIV...yet, you are terrified (apparently)to actually discuss such things, when details are the only way the understand anything. Such as #1 & #2 above.

You're missing a golden opportunity if you stay with that, but obviously. I can only suggest & hope. You said it yourself - life & who we are is more than movies, blogs & books... Be adventurous & find out.

***

HOWEVER: Still much to ask you & discuss with you on those things & others from your letters:

>I saw that When You Are Engulfed In Flames by David Sedaris has just come out in paperback.

You know his writing--so I'm guessing you have probably read it. Is this one of his books I should read if I get the chance?

I value & respect your opinion, needless to say.

By the way-one of the all-time BEST book covers: the grinning skull smoking a cigarette.

>Thank you for confirming the "related-ness" of Amy & David Sedaris. Here's another duo: I'm pretty sure is no, but...
- Lorraine Bracco born 10/2/55
- Debra Winger born 5/16/55

The only reason I mention: In "Goodfellas" Ms. Bracco looks amazingly like Debra Winger.

>MAD MEN Season III/Sun 16 August!

>I've heard good & not-so-good reviews of Woody Allen's new film "WHATEVER WORKS" starring Larry David.

Of course-you will be seeing "DEAD SNOW": The Norwegian film about resurrected Nazi zombies in contemporary Scandinavia. I'm kidding of course.

I actually have more time than I thought-so let me address some of more serious comments in your letter: [no particular order].

>Thanks for sharing regarding the interstitial cystitis. Do you take a prophylactic medication and/or antibiotics when needed? You mention sleep "A LOT." That is surprising given your busy, active and insane pace you keep up!

>Speaking of which, I actually sleep LESS. Up very late sometimes/ up often very early i.e. 0300/0330. Will explain why another time.

>Living in NYC, you must know a lot of gay men & women. I am very surprised you know only one who is HIV+. If his history is accurate, and he has been + since 1985-and has never been taken the early meds (AZT) or the cocktail - I hope he has gone to NYU or another major medical center so they can study his blood, etc.

The very small subset of such individuals is of great interest to AIDS researchers for obvious reasons. They may be the key to finding an actual cure or better treatments. Something in their immune system prevents the virus from acting.

> Regarding some of your friends who are "afraid" and have that ridiculous irrational fear...I forgive them their utter ignorance and the occasional irrationality of otherwise intelligent people. It is for that very reason that accounts of what I am supposed to have done have been wildly exaggerated...

>A final comment on correspondents: I actually do not have "lots of people" I write to. I mentioned the stunningly graphic sexual letters received from time to time, plus people write once or twice and then stop. My guess is that actually writing or typing a real letter is not easy for most people used to e-mails & texting etc. etc. / Yes, my medical correspondent is an old dr. colleague" who I've known for a long time. In fact, several items he sent are enclosed.

I would rather write to a few people and know them intimately, than the alternative.

You take care, KK. Let me help you feel even a tiny bit better-and you will learn about me I promise...Thinking of you & hope to hear from you soon.

Yours XO,

Michael

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Letters from the Inside, Michael Swango, #32




Dear KK---
Just sit right back and you'll hear a tale,
a tale of a fateful trip,
That started from this tropic port,
aboard this tiny ship.

The mate was a mighty sailin' man,
the Skipper brave and sure.
Five passengers set sail that day for a three hour tour. A three hour tour.

The weather started getting rough,
the tiny ship was tossed.
If not for the courage of the fearless crew,
the Minnow would be lost. The Minnow would be lost.

The ship set ground on the shore of this uncharted desert isle,
with Gilligan, the Skipper too, the Millionaire and his wife, the movie star,
the Professor
and Mary Ann, here on Gilligan's Isle.
***

Hi sunshine! I wrote the above to make a point about the mysteries of memory. I am certain that I have not seen a "Gilligan's Island" rerun for at least twenty years-or heard that "earworm" of a song. Yet there it sits, perfectly intact within our memories... (because I know that you know it too; plus a dozen other inane ditties from TV or commercials!). More on this in a bit...

The rest of your letter, plus another-my cup overfloweth thanks to you-so let me get to them forthwith: (Another great word--it is so odd!)

Looks like I will begin with some of our serious and "weighty" topics. That's OK--the beater to know you inside and out--if you will allow it...

There is no answer to the question you asked, and then wrote, "I am sure I'll never get that answer, but you need to know I want to know." [Ed.: The question I posed to him was how many people in total did you murder?] Very interesting statement, my dear Kelly. And actually, I appreciate your wanting to know so much...now if only your wanting to know me so well can extend beyond what did or did not happen over eight years ago++. If in time it can, then I can assure you our discussions, and your knowing me and vice-versa, can be far more rewarding and fulfilling. I know that you and I can learn a lot from each other, KK. But clearly it has to be something we both want.

[Ed.: I know I promised to not editorialize but I feel the need to here. Basically this is the first of four letters--I will post the ones that follow shortly--that implore me, try to coerce me, prompt me, to discuss sex with him. Basically what he is saying here is if I want to know in depth details of his crimes, he is fine with it, but I must offer him something he wants to read about in return. The final letter of this sort I got when I returned from my trip to Alaska and it is so pushy that I'm not sure I can continue writing to him. I have written him many times in very exact terms that I find it inappropriate to discuss anything overtly sexual with someone incarcerated. I have reiterated time and time again that I am very happy to correspond as penpals but I will not discuss intimate details of my sex life and do not desire to hear his. He can't let this go apparently.]

As you & I have discussed before, I cannot get into the incidents, etc. that you alluded to. Besides, there are no absolute answers...I would rather read the "real truth" of the night dance or any of your blogs or the contract you give your clients than any book that tries to tread through this complex story.

One more thing--I am glad that you admit that "your life has been rather interesting." So far I am fascinated, and we have barely scratched the surface. And believe me, it does not "pale" in comparison to mine.

To repeat--no way could I hate you for asking your questions. Again, I only hope they can lead to more probing questions and revelations about the many more interesting and pleasurable aspects of both of our lives.

WARNING: Sexual comments to follow!:

I joked about the "real truth" of the Night Dance, but I believe you. [Ed.: He is referring to a line in a column I wrote about a date with Scout that lead to him sleeping at my house. I made it clear in the column and also to Swango in my letter that I was merely referring to SLEEPING.] But I must say that from a purely man-woman/man wants woman point of view, it is difficult to imagine lying together in bed with woman one is so clearly "connected" to without several amazingly sensuous and loving sexual couplings taking place. It has been my experience that bodies that sleep together so wonderfully also have powerful, intimate & loving sex as well...

Again-I know how uncomfortable this seems to make you, so I'll stop.

With reference to "Scout" - I can't count the number of relationships I have seen that were destroyed by alcohol. Usually by an alcoholic male, but not always. There are few things sadder to watch, especially when things with the couple seem to otherwise have a chance.

As previously mentioned, both my parents, being of that generation, were "social drinkers." However, I am sure my father drank more heavily during the many years he was in Vietnam. And of course, upon his retirement, it was alcohol that hastened his death seven years later.

Sooo many divorces and breakups and of course, young deaths in DUI accidents. I remember one situation where a man driving drunk killed himself & his tow kids in a one-car accident. His estranged wife (separated because of the drinking) had to come to the ER and find out all three were dead.

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Such cheerful talk-but you and both tend toward the dark- so that's not a problem.

A "memory palace" is a mental construct which I believe dates from medieval times. It enables one to store extremely vivid memories and recall & re-live them at will. It is not easy and not foolproof- but something I think you would find most interesting. Google the topic/or Wikipedia/and send me what it says and we'll discuss further if you wish. I read one of the books mentioned in the afterword of Thomas Hams' book Hannibal-in which he uses the "memory palace" as part of Lecter's psyche. Please don't draw any conclusions! I learned about the memory palace while I was in Africa.

Both of the enclosed articles made me things of you:

>Brief review of "Nurse Jackie" on Showtime. Sounds like a show you would "get" if you had the time to watch it. I know I would like it.

>Interesting comment on an 04 book that remarkably correlates with the film, "The Curious Case of Benjamin Button." I've already added the book to my reading list.

KK-As you probably know by now--my "reading list" is quite long, given the current situation. By the way, I was serious about FLASH FORWARD! [Ed.: He wants me to buy and send him a copy.]

No time today to delve into your next letter(s) with "New Yorker" article plus your bizarre NYC stories from blogs you read/ plus your brief but chock-full letter. Will answer and respond tomorrow/Tuesday.

However, must comment on two things briefly before getting this in the mail:

>Your comment about "OMG! Michael-if this envelope smells like perfume, it is NOT intentional." Sooo funny. KK-lots of girls & women perfume or scent ALL their letters. You really are skittish about "such things."

> Speaking of which--another WARNING! Love your headshot, Kelly. What you are wearing is perfect. The shadow is very professionally done. That Mona Lisa "almost" smile...and once again, like in your lovely & sexy wedding photo-I sense so much sensuality & giving of yourself totally just below the surface...Ok, I'll stop now.

Obviously more to follow. You take care--stay safe, and I'll be thinking of you.

Yours,
Michael

P.S. Looking this over very quickly, I meant to say more about memory and the song "Hallelujah". Next time. XO