Letters from the Inside, Michael Swango, #100 Pt. 2

[Ed.: This is continued from <--- there.]

Here's just one idea from my spaceship traveling to Alpha Centauri:

Although I did have my own personal version of your Rule of Three, you have published it on your blog so we'll call it your idea (kidding!). As I understand it: "Kreth's Postulate" says that it is virtually impossible for a woman in Manhattan to simultaneously have her job, her relationship, and her home running smoothly. (You put it so much better.)

There's a book: The Rule of Three: "One woman's frantic, sad & funny attempt to have it all when something is always wrong." [Or a much more well-written version.]

I am sure that in your thousands of bloggings you have addressed at length and in detail, the trial and tribulations of job, relationships, and home.

Mine was a "rule of four"" 1) Where you live 2) Where you work 3) Who you're with 4) What you drive. These four things define virtually everyone: Your house/apt; your job/ your relationship/significant other (Yes, KK, sexual OMG!) and your car. I never thought all four were impossible to have at the same time--but most of our actions focus on them.

Hell--I think in just what I've read from you all three and more have been covered.

By the way--having thought about these things myself, I would be more than happy to help. Perhaps provide an anonymous male viewpoint in the relationship part of the triad.

The beauty of your "rule of three" is that even if a woman has never thought of her life in those terms, she will instantly realize that relationship, job, and home ARE the center of her life.

[Not: Obviously for any woman attending school full-time--that is her job.]


And your stories and experiences, even if based in NYC, will resonate universally to any woman living anywhere in the USA or anywhere else for that matter.

Ok--so tell me where I am wrong. You cn do this--and I would be willing to help in any way I can. Talk to me, Kelly.

Again, I know you believe I was a sociopath 24/7for a long time. Not even close. I did talk--in depth and at length to many women about their views of men and sex. (Hence my theory on why gay men and straight women for such unique and powerful bonds. If anything I know of can be of help--no problem.

By the way, I would of course be willing to help write or edit any of the sexual passages that would inevitably arise in your relationship vignettes, etc.!

I am kidding, of course. I know that when you "felt it" you can and do write about that as well as you do everything else. However, KK, to be serious--I think you do underestimate the importance and power of sex in male/female relationships. And I don't mean "All men are dogs...that's all they think about..." Wrong and wrong.

What keeps a man in a committed, monogamous relationship with a woman is almost always NOT what women thing. Yes, sex is a huge part of it, but not in the way you think. From talking exclusively with women, I can also made some educated suppositions on what keeps a woman in such a relationship.

Three quick thoughts on this subject:

(Which clearly deserves much more detailed discussion.)

>Ask yourself what is it that causes a spouse or boyfriend (usually but not always male) or ex-spouse to KILL their significant other or ex-significant other in a rage or fit of passion/and often kill anyone else who is there...and often (but not always) then kill themselves.

> Ask yourself My story (personal) of "The Widow" (That's what she caleld herself) About that very imperative of emotion and sex and need of men and women (yes, her and I...)

No time to tell it today but again if you're interested I will discuss in detail along with the lovely and heartbroken and devastated flight attendant after the United crash.


My God, Kelly, I do so enjoy writing to you--as much as I enjoy receiving your amazing letters.

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[Part Three tomorrow and also TEASER ALERT: I recently wrote to a fascinating sociopathic murderer and just got his first response. Boy, is it a doozy!]